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LATEST DIALOGUES You Are Not Your Thoughts

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In the quest for our true identity, what could be more authentic than our own thoughts? They are real and vibrant, and always with us, like children—or sometimes wild animals—tagging along wherever we go.

So strong is our connection to our thoughts that we often think they are the core of our being. But while our thoughts are undeniably connected to us, our true relationship to them is much more complicated.

As spiritual teacher Francis Lucille says about our thoughts: “The thinker and the thought, the seer and the seen, the hearer and the heard are names that refer to this one single Reality.”

For a long time, our thoughts formed the basis of our reality—thanks in large part to Sigmund Freud. In addition to giving us modern psychoanalysis, Freud also taught that beneath our thoughts lurked a treasure trove of hidden information about our lives.

“Thoughts have meaning, so every thought is the tip of an iceberg,” Jonathan Shedler, a Colorado psychologist, told NPR’s Invisibilia.

According to Freudian psychologists like Shedler, there is great value in understanding where your thoughts come from. Tracing the roots of your thoughts to the deepest layers of your psyche can help you deal with anxieties, phobias and neuroses.

But focusing too much on your thoughts, especially dark ones, can often end up reinforcing them, and giving them more solidity than they actually have. This is especially a problem for people with obsessive compulsive disorders, because their dark thoughts can become just another compulsion pulling them forward.

Since the 1980s, though, Freudian psychoanalysis has slowly been replaced by cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) as psychology’s main method of helping people deal with dark thoughts—what psychiatrist Aaron Beck called “automatic negative thoughts.”

One of the main shifts that came with cognitive behavioral therapy is that your thoughts no longer had to necessarily mean anything deep about you. Sometimes thoughts that arose in your mind during the day were just thoughts, not a defining aspect of your ultimate essence.

But cognitive behavioral therapy was not the end of the shift away from thoughts as solid aspects of ourselves. In recent years, some psychotherapists have revived an old idea about thoughts, treating them as fluctuations—or “wavelets” as Lucille calls them—of a vast ocean beyond our mind and body.

Viewed this way, our thoughts, especially dark ones, often have no meaning at all. What matters most is how you react to them when they arise. So instead of contradicting those thoughts, as with cognitive behavioral therapy, people learn to ignore those thoughts.

“We’re going to work on not getting rid of [your thought], but changing your relationship with it,” Miranda Morris, a psychotherapist outside of Washington, D.C., told Invisibilia.

In her own practice, Morris uses basic meditation techniques with her patients. In this way, people learn to control where they place their attention. When a dark thought arises, they notice it, and let it float by.

This observing of the thoughts, as if from the outside, is what Nisrgadatta meant when he said: “Catch hold of the knower of the mind. If you believe your thoughts, you will be disappointed. Be the witness of thoughts. Remain as the seer.”

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Shawn Radcliffe is a science writer, yoga instructor and creator of fiction and humor. He has written about science, health, meditation and yoga for, Men's Fitness, Greater Good and more. He also tackles the humorous implications of spirituality and science on his blog, Branáin - Ravenously Curious.

4 Responses to “You Are Not Your Thoughts”

  1. February 24, 2015 at 7:18 am, Doug Highfield said:

    it is as if I stand beside my mind. not inside it, it is inside of me…and there is plenty of space left over. that space where thoughts arise and subside is home. it is refuge. it is the silent abode of I-amness. a dynamic space. I realize I am not my mind, my thoughts, or my human body, I am universal timeless being expressed in many unique forms, like the snowflakes that melt into the sea. I am spatial fields, I am light, vibration…but, most truly I am the source, empty and dynamic, beyond concepts. I cannot describe it, I can only point at it.

  2. February 24, 2015 at 7:37 am, Radha Krishna Sharma said:

    to become a limitless entity with space and time you should shed your identity to gain seeking onto anything….

  3. February 24, 2015 at 10:27 am, David Winsland said:

    I may lay claim to my thoughts but I know that I am not the originator of them. Thoughts arise and then disperse as do all things, all being but manifestations of the one true reality.

  4. January 18, 2016 at 3:27 pm, Tom said:


    You quote “The thinker and the thought, the seer and the seen, the hearer and the heard are names that refer to this one single Reality.” –

    And yet the title is “You Are Not Your Thoughts”. What a total misunderstanding. The Thinker and the Thought are names that refer to this one single Reality.

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