Radiant Intimacy 2019

A Modern-Day Crucible for Healing, Awakening, and Celebrating Life
May 24th – 27th, 2019

1440 Multiversity, 800 Bethany Drive
Scotts Valley, CA 95066

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A retreat with Helen Fisher, Terry Real, Celeste Hirschman, Dimitry Yakoushkin, Michaela Boehm, Steve James, Diane Poole Heller, and other teachers, leading scientists, and artists. Facilitated by Zaya and Maurizio Benazzo.

We all long for love. We long to be intimately connected to ourselves and others. For some, a partnership or marriage is the natural outcome of this longing. Others find alternative styles of intimacy more fulfilling. For most of us, love and sexuality can be complex and confusing. We live in a dynamic time of transition with post patriarchy relationships, gender equality, new femininity and masculinity, modern parenting and modern sexual dynamics.

Radiant intimacy is an emerging field of exploration bringing awareness to the topics of relationships, sexuality, and love while drawing from psychology, trauma theory, modern evolutionary biology and science sex research. By bringing together practitioners from a multiplicity of backgrounds and disciplines, we will give you tools to navigate the complexities of modern day relating and expand your experience of intimacy.

Through carefully crafted exercises, keynote lectures, targeted workshops, potent meditations, and performances, you will engage the concept of radiant intimacy, and how to express and integrate it within a spiritual path. You will also explore:

  • Attachment styles and their effects on relationships
  • Shadow elements within a relationship, and how early developmental trauma can impact our capacity for relating
  • How sexuality and sexual energy—an essential life force—can open us to the experience of our true nature and the unity consciousness
  • The evolution and future of human sexuality, love, and relationships
  • Transparent communication skills.


Why Attend?

  • Explore radiant intimacy through the lenses of neuroscience, integral psychotherapy, and attachment theory.
  • Get a taste of expanded aliveness and intimate attunement through a rich selection of workshops, experiential activities, and performances with leading educators, scientists, and artists.
  • Explore ways to break outdated paradigms for relationships and sexuality—create relationships that are more aligned with who you are and with your deepest desires.

Prerequisites:
None required

Experience Level:
None required
 
Our home for the retreat will be the 1440  located in the beautiful redwoods near Santa Cruz, CA https://1440.org/

Details

Date:
May 24, 2019 - May 27, 2019
Location:
  • 1440 Multiversity, California
  • 800 Bethany Drive
  • Scotts Valley, CA
  • 95066

May 24

Time Description
2:15 pm Check-in begins. Rooms ready by 4:00 pm
4:45 pm – 5:45 pm Supplementary Classes: Yoga, Tai Chi, Qigong, or Meditation
5:30 pm – 7:00 pm Dinner
6:45 pm – 7:15 pm Guest Welcome Session
Opening Program
7:30 pm – 8:00 pm Maurizio & Zaya - Opening and introduction of presenters.
Evening Session
8:00 pm – 9:00 pm

The Drive to Love: Romance in the Digital Age with Helen Fisher

Room 101
"Is technology changing love? Is monogamy natural? Why do you fall in love with one person rather than another? How can you use neuroscience to keep love alive? And where are we headed in our digital age.

Anthropologist and neuroscientist Dr. Helen Fisher uses her brain scanning work (fMRI) to discuss three brain systems that evolved for mating and reproduction–the sex drive; romantic love; and attachment; and maintains that these basic mating instincts will not alter due to Internet dating. But the Internet is changing how we court and who we choose. Hooking up? Friends with Benefits? Polyamory?

Fisher then uses her data on 35,000 single Americans to explain modern dating tactics—from Millennials to Seniors—and the newest trend in courtship, what she calls “slow love.” She also proposes that humanity has evolved four broad basic styles of thinking and behaving which draw us naturally toward one person rather than another—in love and business. And she discusses the biological underpinnings of love at first sight, love addiction, adultery and divorce. Last she shows some of the brain circuitry of long-term romantic happiness and explains how to use neuroscience to keep love alive."

9:00 pm - 9:30 pm Room 101
Q&A with Helen Fisher

 

May 25

Time Description
6:45 am – 7:45 am Supplementary Classes: Yoga, Tai Chi, Qigong, or Meditation
7:00 am – 9:00 am Breakfast
Morning Sessions
7:30 pm – 8:00 pm Maurizio & Zaya - Opening and introduction of presenters.
9:00 am - 10:25 pm

Enhancing Spiritual Maturation by Healing Early Attachment Wounds and Embracing Secure Relationships with Diane Heller

Sanctuary Room
Understanding and releasing childhood attachment ruptures by learning secure attachment skills is key to enjoying more fulfilling relationships and healthy intimacy as an adult. This workshop will include an overview of attachment adaptations including secure, avoidant, and ambivalent, as well as how each style impacts adult relationships. From a spiritual perspective, healing insecure attachment helps us have more awareness to support ego dis-identification and essential maturation.

Learning objectives:

  • The participant will be able to identify and describe secure attachment
  • The participant will be able to identify and distinguish avoidant and ambivalent attachment.
  • The participant will understand how to create corrective experiences to facilitate healing.
  • The participant will understand the challenges of dissociation as well as embodiment related to resolving relational trauma issues
10:30 am – 11:50 am

Men & Women In Love: The Future of Romance with Terry Real

Sanctuary Room 
We have never wanted more from our long term relationships. We want to be lifelong lovers. But do we act like lovers with one another? What gets in the way? Over time many of us stop telling our whole truth to our partners, because it doesn’t go well when we try, and the first casualty of backing off is our passion. The reclaiming of women’s “voices” has been an issue for decades. But men in relationship rarely articulate their emotions or deepest needs either.

Learn the art of standing up for yourself with love - asserting yourself and cherishing your partner in the same breath. And then learn how to listen and respond with a generous heart, so that you deal well with conflicts as they arise and keep things between you honest and alive.

12:00 pm -12:15pm

Introduction of afternoon program with Terry Real and Michaela Boehm

Sanctuary Room 
Preparing folks for the afternoon sessions

11:30 am - 1:30pm Lunch
Afternoon Concurrent Sessions
2:00 pm - 5:00 pm

The Wild Woman’s Way: The Embodied Feminine: Michaela Boehm with women

Sanctuary Room
Join us for an interactive exploration into full-bodied expression of your original, deeply connected feminine nature. “The Wild Woman’s Way®” is Michaela’s body of work and this session is an invitation to find and unfold the parts of you that are deeply connected to nature. Deepen into who you are as a woman by releasing layers of societal conditioning, belief, and habit and learn to listen to your bodily genius.

2:00 pm - 5:00 pm

The Masculine Dilemma: Our Next Frontier: Terry Real with men

Room 201
Never before have we men been awash with so many confusing messages:

“Be sensitive. Be strong. Just listen to me. Tell me about your feelings. Throw me against a wall and just do me! Be gentle. Be in control. Act like a man! Don’t act like a man! Just be yourself!” Conservatives reassert old mores, some progressives speak like they want to throw the whole thing out. But it’s up to each of us to look at the legacy we’ve been handed, figuring out what to kill; what to keep, and what to pass on to our kids.

What is the legacy that was handed to you? How was it transmitted? Through exercise and discussion we will look at ourselves as men - we will look at the messages given from our fathers in particular but also our mothers and the culture.

We will explore what it means to live whole, relational lives.

4:45 pm - 5:45 pm Supplementary Classes: Yoga, Tai Chi, Qigong, or Meditation
5:30 pm – 7:00 pm Dinner
Evening Session
7:30 pm – 9:30 pm Whole group integration with Terry Real & Michaela Boehm 

Sanctuary Room

 

May 26

Time Description
6:45 am – 7:45 am Supplementary Classes: Yoga, Tai Chi, Qigong, or Meditation
7:00 am – 9:00 am Breakfast
Morning Concurrent Sessions
9:00 am - 12:00 pm

Radical Intimacy And The Play Of The Erotic with Michaela Boehm & Steve James

Sanctuary Room
Whether you would like to start a new intimate relationship or want to deepen passion with your partner, the principles of Intimacy and Erotic Friction — the spark that keeps passion alive — are always available to deepen your experience. The erotic play of masculine and feminine, springing from a radical intimacy with life itself, is a challenging and delightful realm of inquiry. We will explore the deep principles of embodiment, uncover and work with personal blocks to expansion and contraction, engage in practical exercises, dialogue, and learning to widen both heart space and the ability to embody as energy or thrust. In this experiential session you will be shown the building blocks, practices, and disciplines of creating deeper relational and erotic connections in your life.

9:00 am - 12:00 pm

Deepen Intimacy Through Erotic Embodiment and Emotional Vulnerability with Celeste Hirschman & Dimitry Yakoushkin

Room 201
In order to have deep intimacy with another person you need two core skills - erotic embodiment and emotional vulnerability. The more you can show up in your erotic body in the present moment, the more you can understand your feelings, boundaries, desires, and capacities. The more you are able to share vulnerably, the more acceptance and empathy you can feel from your partner. In this 3-hour workshop we will take you on a journey into deep erotic embodiment and vulnerable sharing to enhance your pleasure, joy and connection with those around you.

11:30 am – 1:30 pm Lunch
Afternoon Concurrent Sessions
2:00 pm - 5:00 pm

Ecstasy & Mystery with Michaela Boehm & Steve James

Sanctuary Room
Join us for an immersion into the tantric subtle body arts. Experience ecstatic intimacy and explore the sacred mysteries of erotic friction. In this experiential session we will engage in specific transmission oriented around subtle body practice and the realms of sacred union.

We'll first engage in a series of practices to sensitize and open both body and heart, resulting in greater feeling capacity and sensitivity towards yourself and others. Once the body and heart are sufficiently relaxed and sensitized, we will dive into the mysteries of erotic friction by engaging with the full spectrum of energetic offerings and touch, from the sublime light to the mysterious dark. In this session you will engage with practices and disciplines of creating ecstatic play in all aspects of your life. Using cutting edge explorations & new practices, we will be inviting not just understanding of these principles, but true embodiment of them.

2:00 pm - 5:00 pm

The Art of Giving and Receiving Sensual Consent with Celeste Hirschman & Dimitry Yakoushkin

Room 201
Consent is a very important topic that has come to the forefront recently. While it may seem straightforward, truly understanding, giving, and gaining consent is actually quite complex. What’s more, it can be done very clumsily or very sensually depending on your awareness and skill level. In this 3-hour workshop, we will introduce the foundational skills you need to have in order to give and receive true consent in a connected and arousing way

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4:45 pm - 5:45 pm Supplementary Classes: Yoga, Tai Chi, Qigong, or Meditation
5:30 – 7:00 pm Dinner
Evening Session & Dance
8:00 pm – 10:00 pm

Dance

Sanctuary Room

May 27

Time Description
6:45 am – 7:45 am Supplementary Classes: Yoga, Tai Chi, Qigong, or Meditation
7:00 am – 9:00 am Breakfast
Morning Session
9:00 am - 12:00 pm

Q&A with Michaela Boehm, Steve James, Celeste & Dimitri and group sharing time .

Room 101
Closing experiential session and conversation with presenters & attendees

12:00 noon Check-out time
11:30 am – 1:00 pm Lunch (Included on day of departure)

A Modern-Day Crucible for Healing, Awakening, and Celebrating Life
May 24th – 27th, 2019

1440 Multiversity, 800 Bethany Drive
Scotts Valley, CA 95066

Register