There is a growing tendency to build relationship around external commonalities rather than inner connection. Technology is creating the opportunity for this to trend to continue. There are times when there are good reasons for us to be in relationship with others because of mutual associations. However, we can experience difficulty in building and sustaining relationships when, despite our common association, we cannot actually relate to one another in our heart. Understanding is a good beginning, but it is not enough. We can understand someone and not be able to relate to them. Relating does not develop until you can perceive that whomever or whatever has something to do with you. Oftentimes, the culprit of our inability to genuinely relate in our heart is our adherence to the dualistic paradigm of “otherness.” In this mindset, we simply fail to perceive our interconnectedness, let alone our oneness. Engaging in othering for prolonged periods of time cripples our very capacity to be in authentic relationship. We witness this on all levels from interpersonal family dynamics to geo-socio political affairs. Unbeknownst to us, we have created the equivalent of relationship gerrymandering in which we redraw the boundaries of who is or out of our sphere of connectedness. Rarely do they have any say in the matter. Forgetting that a relationship is merely a real-time reflection of how we are relating, we fallaciously believe that we can improve relationships without improving how we actually relate. It’s time for us to put “relate” back into relationship.
the dark stages of dissolution that precede the transformation of butterflies
In a time of growing ecological and humanitarian crises, Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee bears witness to the darkness of the dying myth we are stranded in.
Creating an Inhabitable World for Humans Means Dismantling Rigid Forms of Individuality
To celebrate Earth Day we would like to offer you the following mediation, which is a is a love letter to the Earth, written by Thay.
two excerpts from the online SAND event with Thomas
Modern dreams of death and dying are deeply "humanistic", tethered to a vision of the self as independent and removed from "nature".
Life and death are not the opposites the modern mind has made them to be.
Covid-19 is the first time in our lives that nature has turned against us on a planetary scale.
Gordon Hempton is an acoustic ecologist whose life work is preserving the world’s silent places
In our world right now there are economic and political and surveillance systems that need help in dying.
67 people from all over the world to take a DNA test. It turns out they have much more in common with other nationalities than they thought ...
How does one choose to walk closely to the dying every day?
An Open Online Event with Thomas Hübl
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