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LATEST DIALOGUES If Thoughts and Feelings Could Speak

I remember the moment the teaching to “see” rather than ignore thoughts and feelings became real for me. It was during a car ride. Before that moment, whenever thoughts and feelings made it seem that something was wrong or lacking, I would ignore them. I’d turn on a CD of a spiritual teacher – and immediately there was only the knowing of that which is not dependent of thoughts or feelings. And all of that was fine – for a time.

On that car ride all of that changed. As usual, the radio and CD player were off. Pretty soon a feeling that something was wrong came up – and I watched, as if in slow motion, as my index finger moved to push the button on the CD player. But this time, unlike all the others, I paused. And in that pause I noticed a prompting to “turn around and look closer” at what I was trying to avoid. It was only a whisper of an invitation – one that could easily have been ignored – but the quality of that whisper felt true, so I followed it. And as all feelings and thoughts were allowed, it was amazing to see that no thought or feeling is an obstacle to sensing what is true. Later during that car ride I did listen to a CD of a spiritual teacher, but it was not turned on robotically to avoid what was coming up in my experience – it was turned on out of sheer joy.

That experience showed me that thoughts and feelings do not have to be ignored. Attention does not have to be put on something “better” in order to confirm what is true. In allowing thoughts and feelings there is not only a sensing of my true nature, but a revealing of the true nature of thoughts and feelings themselves. There is the realization that we only ignore what we feel is a problem and – if we feel thoughts and feelings are a problem, then we’re not seeing them clearly.

From that day on I was very conscious of meeting everything in my experience – not avoiding anything. Whatever came up was included. Like a scientist, I was only interested in confirming what is my direct experience. Again and again, within all conditions, there was an openness to “see” what is what.

When the feeling of lack comes – while driving the car, or washing the dishes, or changing the diaper, or watching the news – we can investigate what is actually true, not through deepening or changing beliefs, and not by ignoring anything, but by allowing everything. Just as the scientist does not rely on beliefs and does not discard what is showing up, we also can remain open to our direct experience.

It is amazing what unfolds when we are open to everything in our experience. Openness to everything reveals that nothing is a problem. Allowing thoughts and feelings to flow without grasping or rejecting them not only opens a sensing of that which is independent of them, but a sensing of the non-personal, creative nature of thoughts and feelings themselves.

If thoughts and feelings could speak, they would say something like, “At last! Thank you for seeing me and allowing me my freedom. And now that you realize your own freedom, let’s finally explore and enjoy this beautiful creation of ours.”


From a young age Dhyana Stanley felt there had to be a better way of living than she and others knew. After many years of searching within organized religion and many more outside religion, deep suffering led to an intense urge to find the truth of life. She was convinced that there had to be a universal truth and that this truth would impact how she lived. After a profound shift of understanding and years of integration, she holds small gatherings in Maine and meets with people individually, in person and on Skype. She is the author of The Human Experience is the Dance of Heaven and Earth.

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3 Responses to “If Thoughts and Feelings Could Speak”

  1. October 19, 2018 at 1:52 am, Greg Donner said:

    This is a really beautiful post. Sometimes this kind of dialogue might be considered helpful for a particular kind of person or for a different branch of spirituality or even worse, that it’s considered not part of the higher level spiritual pathway. Yet this is the core of the map of the mind and is essential if there’s an interest in making the unconscious mind conscious. There really is no other way to undo the egocentric small self.

    I would love to see a dialogue happen here. I’ve always loved SAND and the many great YouTubes that have been posted over the years and I respect this organization and consequently this platform. I’m very new to this so I’ll see how it unfolds.

    I can share a map of the mind here, that has been a part of several different cultures/sciences in the world. The map of the mind is one that has come into my awareness back in the late 1990’s when I took a dive into Native American mysticism. Only a handful of people actually know about these understandings and even less have integrated this on a deeper level. When the teachings were given to me, I understood that this was to be practiced, even as it is by Dhyana here.

    The mind does involve thought, that is its primary characteristic, and this is the arena in which we can work. In talking about our goal of oneness though, we do want to find how things are connected, that is the direction if we want to move towards oneness.

    I’m a bit tired now, so I’m going to give the short version. Everything is connected and the short of it is that the mind looks like a series of 5 concentric circles. The outer edge of these circles you will find perception. From there and going into the mind you have emotions, and then thought, and belief as Dhyana alluded to. After belief, we move to the core of this whole dynamic—desire. In other words, “Do we desire separateness or Oneness?” I have found for myself that the self inquiry really comes to this very point, and I have found that this is very important to begin to undo the deeply ingrained operational thinking that originates from the belief in separation.

    If there’s any interest in more dialogue, I’d be happy to continue and to hear from you guys on this blog.
    Many thanks and peace to you!

    • November 01, 2018 at 9:16 am, Dhyana said:

      > Good to hear from you, Greg. To me, this is what meditation is – a living openness to what is now throughout the entirety of daily life. As I flew back from SAND a few days ago I watched the movie Avator and the line ‘Good science is good observation’ struck me. I see inquiry this way also – that ‘good’ inquiry is good observation. But that line in the movie also implies there is ‘bad’ science resulting from ‘bad’ observation. And I also see how that can also apply to inquiry. Especially initially, it is so easy for us to get tricked into feeling that our observation/inquiry is direct, pure when it is tainted by beliefs. As you stated – ‘making the unconscious mind conscious’ I also see as essential for the integration of the understanding of Truth. – Dhyana

  2. October 19, 2018 at 12:54 pm, Greg Donner said:

    Hi again,
    I just wanted to come back and share some of the most current and helpful information about our understanding of the levels of mind online at Here you can find a fillable form that navigates you down into these layers—to provide clarity and support for releasing these kinds of feelings of lack and to go down to the deepest layers in the mind. Blessings!

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